Thursday, May 28, 2009

More from Feministing

I like this, although I'm not entirely sure why she posted it under "Sexual Assault" rather than "Sex."  Simple, straightforward, and not a bad analogy.  I wonder how long it will take for the comment thread to devolve into viciousness and chaos.  Unfortunately, I'm almost 100% sure that's what is going to happen.
Posted by Hope at 12:12 PM
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16 comments:

  1. Dw3t-HthrMay 29, 2009 at 5:24 PM

    And, yup, that's why I don't go to places like Feministing. Call me a coward, but I'm not an abuse-seeking defective.

    Hrm. I appear not to be over being triggered to hell and back. Fancy.

    There will probably be rantage later. For now, there will be going and making cookies, because cookies are better than reading those comment threads.

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  2. HopeMay 29, 2009 at 6:15 PM

    Cookies are certainly better, and you don't strike me as a coward.

    Unfortunately, the inevitable seems to have happened. It looks like the charge is being led by our old friend Becstar, who has apparently become even crazier than she used to be.

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  3. Dw3t-HthrMay 30, 2009 at 12:05 AM

    I am feeling very, very sarcastic about becstar, in part because she got close enough to me to trigger the everliving fuck out of me. So please take this comment with that in mind.

    Apparently calling her on rape apologism and expecting her to back up her positions with actual statistics is too much like thinking.

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  4. HopeMay 30, 2009 at 2:26 AM

    Oddly enough, I'm mostly feeling sad about Becstar. It's not just this thread, she's been lashing out erratically all over the place lately.

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  5. Dw3t-HthrMay 30, 2009 at 3:27 AM

    My sister noticed that she popped into another thread to be egregiously transphobic recently, too. Something about how nobody would ever really want to be a woman, the only reasonable thing is to hate having a female body. That what you were referring to?

    I'd probably feel sad about her if it weren't for the fact that I have to rebuild boundaries. I'm still kind of pissed off, but it's one of those "don't expect I'll ever get an apology, so it just has to burn out" sorts of things.

    Mostly how I feel about that entire mess is some form of, "I wish I could say that this will stop me trying to help people on the internets. But I'm still dumb enough to try." The fact that it comes out that way kind of upsets me, but ... it comes out that way.

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  6. HopeMay 30, 2009 at 3:38 AM

    That, but also this and this.

    Mostly how I feel about that entire mess is some form of, "I wish I could say that this will stop me trying to help people on the internets. But I'm still dumb enough to try." Yup, that pretty much sums up my feelings about it too. I'm even still dumb enough to try and help her. I must just be a glutton for punishment.

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  7. Dw3t-HthrMay 30, 2009 at 3:48 AM

    Well, you know, all us submissive folks are masochists looking for abuse, right?

    *has a look at those threads*

    Wow. That's ... yeah, I see your 'sad', some, now.

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  8. ggg_girlMay 30, 2009 at 5:10 PM

    I completely have your back on feministing :)

    Love the blog by the way

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  9. KateMay 30, 2009 at 10:35 PM

    Thanks for linking to your blog on this feministing post. I'm just starting to examine my sexual preferences in relation to my feminist identity, and its really helpful to know these sex-positive blogs are out there.

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  10. HopeMay 30, 2009 at 10:48 PM

    ggg_girl: Thanks on both counts.

    Kate: Welcome, glad I can help.

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  11. ggg_girlMay 31, 2009 at 3:23 AM

    it seems like becstar was banned. before I had posted that I didn't want to share my examination of my sexuality because it wasn't a safe space, not sure if I should share it now there or not... probably only you & trinity would be interested

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  12. HopeMay 31, 2009 at 3:30 AM

    Well I would certainly be interested, but I can definitely understand if you didn't want to post it there.

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  13. ggg_girlMay 31, 2009 at 3:57 AM

    I just made a new blog :D I'll post it there soon:

    http://goodgivinggamegirl.blogspot.com/

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  14. ggg_girlMay 31, 2009 at 4:03 AM

    LOL 100% sure, that was certainly the case! I wonder if it will still be that way now that becstar has been banned...

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  15. Dw3t-HthrMay 31, 2009 at 4:42 AM

    Kate: Hiya!

    ggg_girl: I'm sufficiently jaded that I don't consider places like Feministing sufficiently safe space to register for, so I'm not sure that my opinion on that sort of thing is warranted. ;) But I saw you started up your own blogspace, which means you have an interwebs corner where you get to make the rules.

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  16. ggg_girlMay 31, 2009 at 4:58 PM

    Dw3t-Hthr: Yeah I do the feministing thing but I don't think it's a safe space so there's no way I'm going to write a community post or something about my personal life and open it up for attack. I feel bad for the person who wrote this post. I don't understand why people ask for advice over there when posting about deeply personal issues that they already feel strongly about. Why pretend to seek approval and open yourself up for a million attacks? I'm not that masochistic ;)

    Dw3t-Hthr & Hope & anyone else: Come visit my blog? I'm very excited about it! Only the people on this blog and let them eat know about it; I don't really feel like telling other people in my life all about my sexuality. Maybe if I get more comfortable I'd give them the URL but for now it's only on the interwebs.

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